AAAaaaaand, we're back! After a long break, we've decided to get some more episodes ready for 2020. Listen to our recorded message below for more!
*See our most recent blog post, by Martha. She shares about the Winter Solstice and offers some intentional ritual and self-care ideas!
*You can print out this FREE PDF Guide to have on hand while you plan for your rituals.
[From the Archives] Written by: Martha Aguilar
During the Winter Solstice we experience both the shortest day and longest night of the year. This time of extended darkness can bring about discomfort on several levels, as we instinctually push away from pain of every type. However, there are times when moving toward pain is a loving act towards healing. When we sit with our emotional discomfort, we honor our experiences and ourselves, and break the pattern of dismissing our needs (that is often developed in childhood). Holding our emotional pain in a loving manner provides a safe space to not only identify our needs but also grieve losses in order to make room for what is to be. The Winter Solstice and it’s lingering darkness provides us this opportunity to grieve what we desperately grasp onto (and which consequently holds us back), as well as facilitate a stillness we can harness to turn inwards, reflect, and connect with ourselves. This deep and dark space of Winter is not an end to life, but resting space as we transition into another beginning where our inspirations, desires, and dreams quicken in their gestation before unfurling into visions, ideas, and actions towards what we want and where we want to go. There is rest and renewal here to prepare for the conception of our Dreams in this place of darkness.
It can be scary to trust this process, yet we can look towards the powerful rhythms of nature for reminders of the need for darkness. Daily and seasonally, periods of darkness are necessary to allows rest and rejuvenation, which is required to sustain life. Although many plants feed on the sun’s energy, it is the restful break from the light that supports on-going growth, balance, vibrancy, and in many cases, resurrection. With this in mind, the Winter Solstice becomes an invitation to access the gifts that darkness brings by taking a pause, turning inward, reflecting on what is, and birthing dreams of what can be.
If you are not a glutton for pain and/or if it becomes too painful to take the conscious plunge into darkness, you may find more solace in knowing that the day after the Winter Solstice, we begin to shift into longer days and shorter nights. We gradually feel more of the sun's light and energy allowing us to move forward from our dream state. In these days after the Winter Solstice, we can be in the planning stages of manifesting our newborn dreams, and begin to take action on bringing them to light.
I invite you to take this opportunity to make time and space (if possible) to connect with yourself, especially if you are about to step into the rush of holiday festivities surrounded by others. Even a moment of connection in any manner (prayer, mediation, journaling, etc.) may help ground you before stepping into relationships with others.
The Winter Solstice varies annually in the Northern Hemisphere, between December 20 or 22. For the exact day/time in your area go to: http://www.timeanddate.com/calendar/winter-solstice.html.
Below are suggestions on ways to celebrate the Winter Solstice:
This ceremony is best done outdoors. An indoor option is also offered in the instructions.
What you need:
Welcoming the Light Ceremony:
What you need:
Intention Setting Ritual:
This is best done after doing releasing work. You can do this days or weeks after a releasing ritual, which allows you to the space to grieve and clear out space for what is to be.
What you need:
You can also do this ritual at every New Moon and collect manifested dreams throughout the year. At the end of the year, open your container to review what dreams you manifested.
Some common herbs to consider:
Rose: Love, Healing, Protection, Courage
Rosemary: Protection, Rest
Lavender: Healing, Love, Anti-depression
Basil: Family harmony, Wealth, Courage
Mint: Strength, Healing, Prosperity
Sage: Protection, Longevity, Money
As with all rituals, feel free to improvise.
We're back! In episode two, we work through some gunk in our own experiences by sharing our ideas around the whole light & love shiz and the ultra-spiritual bypassing that happens in spiritual communities. We talk about the importance of having supportive people in your life, finding one's pack, reaching for those shifts in yourself and trusting that it will propel you into the realms of possibility, surrounded by "your people" that are there for you...to listen, support and love all the parts of you regardless. We get to the grit, unpack, and find our way in this episode.
In our conversation, we talk about:
Wanting to be witnessed when in a vulnerable space and others not listening! Well intentions? Or tangled in triggers, ego, agenda, assumptions. Lack of capacity to witness and hold space. Not letting us be in or openly process while in that shadowy or angry place. And when that shame sets in.
Little trust when sharing ideas/projects, etc. Feeling protective and discouraged when sharing from a vulnerable place. Told it has to be a "certain way." Always receiving uninvited feedback on ways to change or improve.
Coaches. The marketing behind big money coaches and the damage they can do to make a sale. The unworthiness factor is their greatest tactic and how done we are with this!
Claiming a feral process. How one can get caught up in the illusion of perfection. The power of showing up to reclaim our voices, truths and birthrights in a society that continually tells us we are wrong, illegal, broken, and unwanted.
A quote from Women Who Run With the Wolves, by Clarissa P. Estés
“A woman's life may die away in the fore of self-hatred for complexes can bite hard and, at least for a time, successfully frighten her away from coming too near the work or life that matters to her... Many years are spent not going, not moving, not learning, not finding out, not obtaining, not taking on, not becoming. The vision a woman has for her own life can also be decimated at someone else's jealousy or someone's plain out destructiveness towards her family, mentors, teachers, and friends are not supposed to be destructive if and when they feel envy, but some decidedly are, in both subtle and not-so-subtle ways. No woman can afford to let her creative life hang by a thread while she serves an antagonistic love relationship, parent, teacher or friend.”